I’ve been doing very well with my recovery for the past couple of weeks, but I feel like I have reached the peak of success and now maintaining it is becoming dreary and tiresome.
I find myself more and more tempted each day now to just take a peek at some porn. Actually, it’s not even porn I’m interested in. Really, I find myself wanting to sneakily view some Facebook profiles of my students again. I have allowed myself one or two fantasies about a particular student. It doesn’t help.
My brain starts to make funny rationalizations for seeking out porn when I get like this. Firstly, I catch myself thinking things like “Well, if I just take a look at some Facebook profiles, that’s not even real porn so it doesn’t count”. I then admit to myself that viewing Facebook profiles of 17 and 18 year old girls will inevitably lead to masturbating to them. Maybe not right now, but it would happen within a day or two at the most. That’s why I can’t allow myself to look at them at all.
So then I try a different tactic. I start thinking, “well, if I really want to avoid masturbating to pictures of my students, then I should just use some regular soft porn from a consenting model.” Of course, that leads to complete relapses in no time at all. Once I start looking at the equivalent of FHM pictures, I’ll be looking at much harder stuff within the hour. It doesn’t take long before I start looking up all of the stuff that in the cold light of day I am ashamed of.
I think I might write the list of search terms I never want people to know I have used tonight. I think that will be a good deterrent for me. But first I’ll head over to NoFap. If I’m still struggling later tonight, I’ll write more.